Geneen Roth is an American bestselling author and authority on compulsive eating. She believes that our relationship to food, money and love is an exact reflection of our deepest held beliefs about ourselves and the amount of joy, abundance, pain and scarcity we have ( or are allowed to have) in our lives.
She says “You eat the way you live”
When I first heard her say it, this simple phrase took up residence in my head. It sashayed it’s way around trying to attach to memories of dark places, eating disorders and self hatred. It burrowed its way in deep and still I could not make sense of it.
Until finally I was able to unhook from my stories, detached from myself and take a good hard look under the hood that I had kept so brilliantly closed for so long and finally I understood what it meant for me.
When I live my life fully, follow the good, trust my heart, have faith, but detachment from all outcomes , I eat well. When I express my soul’s desires, I eat well. I eat to nourish and fuel myself because I am sustained by so much more.
I eat badly when I’m not living in alignment with my values and my beliefs, when I hunger for more from life, but allow fear to restrict and confine me, when I listen to the stories and ignore my calling. I eat badly when I don’t value myself.
This good or bad has nothing to do with what I am eating and everything to do with how I eat it.
I used to feel powerless like I was at the effect of life and not attracting the life I desired. Even when I thought I was creating life on my own terms I really wasn’t. I was locked into the WHEN and IF game.
“When I lose 5kg I will feel free, sexy, feminine” and “I will be so good if I just have 3 green smoothies today” The more I focussed out there the less in touch within I felt.
I thought the emptiness could be filled with food so I used it, like a drug, to numb the feeling and to dim my light. I used food when I wanted to escape, to leave my body, to be living a different life.
There was no pleasure in eating. I didn’t know how to savor the crisp bite of a tart apple or revel in the silkiness of just one piece of chocolate melting over my tongue. I didn’t taste food because I used it to leave the present moment, to escape for just a nanosecond.
When I wasn’t using food to escape, I devised so many rules around how I was allowed to eat that there was no room left for enjoyment.
I didn’t recognize that what I really hungered for was connection, adventure, freedom, creative release and meaningful work. Once I did I set out discovering how to bring those into my life and the most magical things began to unfold.
Today I make it a conscious, daily effort to savor and enjoy food and to not use it. I eat healthy good food most of the time, but not always …do I get it right every day? Absolutely not, but I try and that for me is eating well.
I don’t think we take enough time to focus and direct our light within these days. We watch contrived snapshots of peoples lives on Instagram and hunger for more from our own, yet because we are so disconnected and out of touch we can’t distinguish between real hunger and wanting more from life.
So open your heart wide and fully.. listen to that whisper within because it’s gentle tugging is pulling you in the direction of your wildest dreams. Stop the sabotage, stop the numbing. Embrace nourishment of your soul, of your body and of this one precious life.
You eat the way you live… You eat the way you feel about yourself.
It is a way of being first and doing second…. a journey with no destination. This is about living your life now, in this moment and loving it because you choose to.
So tell me, because I would love to connect over this topic, how does the way you eat reflect in your life?